Just like road warning signs alert drivers to potential dangers, red flags in relationships warn us of possible problems and not paying attention to them can cause emotional distress and unhealthy dynamics.

Red flags are signs of unhealthy or manipulative behaviourin a relationship. These signs might be subtle at first, but they often appear repeatedly, prompting you to reconsider your situation. They can come as gut feelings or subtle cues that something isn’t right.

Recognizing and addressing these red flags early is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Ignoring them can lead to bigger issues later on, just like disregarding road signs can cause traffic problems and accidents. Pay attention to your instincts, they are ‘sometimes God’s way of alerting you to potential dangers.

Some of these red flags include-

1. Lack of Reverence/Fear of God – A shared spiritual foundation will keep your home secure and guarantee you of heaven.
2. Always Ashamed of You or Being Around You in Public – Love has no shame or fear.
3. Difficulty in Resolving Conflict and Never Making Attempts to Apologize or Mend the Relationship – Healthy relationships require effective conflict resolution.
4. More Interested in Sex and Fantasies than in Discussing Future Plans with You – This often suggests there’s a lack of deeper connection for you.
5. Does Not Bring Up Discussions About Future Plans Together – A partner who’s not interested in future plans may not be committed.
6. Emotional/Personality Disorders – Conditions like OCD, BPD, controlling behaviours, and narcissism can create significant challenges.
7. Physically Abusive – Physical abuse is an unequivocal red flag.
8. Constantly Making You Feel Low About Yourself – Either by comparing you always to previous partners or using abusive words.
9. Warped Ideologies and Beliefs – Persistent fundamental differences can lead to ongoing conflict.
10. Substance or Alcohol Abuse – Substance abuse can severely affect relationship health.

How to deal with relationship red flags –

1. Recognise – Acknowledge that there is a problem
2. Communicate – Have an open and honest discussion with your partner
3. Set standards and expectations
4. Seek help if you’re still struggling.
5. Leave the relationship – If the expectations are repeatedly ignored or violated. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage